If you have found yourself on my website, you might be thinking about making changes in your life or feel in need of some support. Whether you are curious to understand yourself a bit better, are struggling to cope or feel you can no longer carry on with things the way they are, I would like to help you if I can.
Counselling gives you a space to safely explore your thoughts, feelings and experiences without judgement or being given advice. Since it is a very personal thing to do, it is important to choose the right counsellor for you. As a practitioner I offer a warm, collaborative, relational approach to support you, in a comfortable and relaxed environment. I hope you find some helpful information here about counselling, about my approach and what it might be like for us to work together.
"There comes a point when we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they're falling in." - Desmond Tutu
I offer in-person, online and telephone sessions, working with adults and young people over 16 for individual counselling. I also offer in-person couples bereavement counselling appointments. My comfortable therapy room is in Farnham, where I am easily accessible by car and public transport from local areas including Farnborough, Fleet, Camberley, Wrecclesham, Alton and Guildford.
I work with people from all walks of life and backgrounds, who come to me with a wide range of difficulties. As a professionally qualified counsellor I am a member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy, and abide by their code of ethics and professional standards. I am fully insured, registered with the Information Commissioners Office (ICO) and have regular DBS checks.
Although many of us have family, friends and colleagues, there are lots of different reasons why we don’t talk to them when we are struggling or feel upset:
We don’t want to upset them
We don’t want to be a burden
We are embarrassed to share
They might not understand
We don't know who to trust
Sometimes we just don’t want others to know about it
Counselling is an opportunity to talk to a trained professional without feeling judged or given advice.
It is a space where you can be yourself, think about cycles of unhelpful thoughts and behaviours, and find clarity at times when you feel stuck.
Counselling helps to develop greater self-understanding and consider the possibility of choices and change, including deciding not to choose.
If you are looking for something to read, there are some resources here that you might find helpful about coping and looking after mental health.
I understand that taking the first steps towards counselling can often feel daunting or scary. There are no guarantees it will help, but counselling can be a hugely rewarding experience.
I offer both short and long term work to best accommodate your specific needs. Short term therapy can be helpful for a major life event, coping strategies and working with specific goals, whilst long term therapy tends to support a broader range of issues and challenges.
I support clients in a wide range of areas including:
Anxiety and stress
Bereavement, grief and loss
Loss by suicide
Counselling for carers
Depression and low mood
Difficult family dynamics
Men's mental health
"It is the client who knows what hurts, what directions to go, what problems are crucial, what experiences have been deeply buried" - Carl Rogers
Daytime and evening in-person counselling sessions are available during the week and I have some appointments on a Saturday. You can also choose online sessions or telephone sessions if you prefer, and various appointment times are available however, couples counselling sessions are in-person only.
You can talk about anything at all!
There is no easy answer to this because everyone has different needs. I offer both short and longer term counselling and would suggest that if you would like to work together, we regularly talk about how you feel it is going and whether you are finding it helpful. If you have a specific timeframe in mind, I am also happy to work in a way that supports it. You can of course choose to end counselling at any time.
Individual counselling sessions are 50 minutes long and couples counselling sessions are 60 minutes long. Sessions are usually at the same time each week, although the frequency of our sessions together is something we would mutually agree.
What you tell me is confidential although there are a couple of exceptions. If I am concerned about risk of serious harm to yourself or someone else I might need to break confidentiality and speak to another professional. Wherever possible, I would ask for your permission first. I am also obliged by law to report any disclosure of harm to a child, threat of terrorism or drug trafficking to the correct authorities.
In line with the requirements of my professional body the BACP, my work is regularly supervised by a qualified supervisor whose role is to ensure that I work ethically and professionally. I refer to my clients by first name only in supervision, and conversations between myself and my supervisor are confidential.
I can't offer you a guarantee but counselling can help you to gain a better understanding of what is going on for you, have a place to reflect and be curious in and find your own answers. If you don't feel counselling is helpful, it is your right to end our work at any time.
I don't take sides or look to blame one partner in any way. My role is to help you process your loss and develop communication, mutual support and a sense of hope going forwards.
UK professional body for members of the counselling professions.
Combines techniques, understandings and methods from different therapeutic approaches to best meet individual or couples needs.
Focuses on our capacity for growth by working with thoughts, feelings and experiences to support greater self-awareness, acceptance and the possibility of change, within an empathetic, accepting and genuine therapeutic relationship.
Focuses on early years attachments and their impact on our ability to make, sustain and manage relationships and connections in later life.
Are rooted in human potential and our capacity to grow and change in positive ways, focusing on development, greater self-awareness and individual strengths and values.
Alexandra House & Barn
1 Waverley Lane
My therapy room is based in a lovely barn on the edge of central Farnham where I offer daytime and early evening in-person counselling appointments during the week, and also see clients on a Saturday. Farnham train station and car park are opposite and there are several town centre car parks within easy walking distance. Free on-road parking can be found on several roads very close by. I also offer online and telephone counselling sessions at various times, if you prefer to work in that way.
Please note my therapy room is located upstairs - unfortunately there is no lift available in the building.
Free initial assessment for individuals: I offer a short assessment to talk about your hopes and expectations of counselling and how I might be able to help. It takes around 20 minutes and is an opportunity to ask any questions you may have and for us to decide if we would be a good fit working together. We can arrange an assessment in-person, online or by telephone.
Free initial online assessment for couples: I offer a 30 minute online or in-person initial assessment to talk to you both about what brings you to couples bereavement counselling, your expectations and hopes and how I might be able to help you.
Fees and payment methods:
Payment can be made by bank transfer, cash or credit/debit card. Bank transfer payments are due 24 hours before each session.
Cancellation: Less than 24 hours notice of cancellation or failure to attend an appointment will incur the full fee.